When I moved to Heber Springs one of the things I thought about before I moved was leaving my friends behind. I am a social animal and like to go and do with friends. Once upon a time I had a pretty active social life. As I have gotten older though and am single, that life has slowed down. Who wants to be the tagalong, third person or fifth wheel? Unfortunately, many of my friends are couples who normally don’t want to include a third person. What’s the old saying? Two’s company but three’s a crowd. I have felt that often.

Of course when you are young in your twenties or thirties, many times you will see groups of singles. But when you hit your fifties, not so much. Then when you get to be in your sixties and seventies, spouses and/or partners begin to die and you find yourself single again. Often others don’t know what to say or do to the recently widowed or even recently divorced at these ages and unfortunately, they just forget about them. Many older singles are just lonely. If they have been married a long time, they don’t really know how to get back involved in social functions. Worse, sometimes they are made to feel not welcome. This is a real shame. What youngsters fail to realize is how much they can learn from people in their 50’s, 60’s and 70’s.

They say experience is a good teacher and that is so correct. Unfortunately, in today’s world people graduate from college and expect to get the plum job close to the top of the business ladder. I’m not sure where this began. I remember when I was younger, you had to work your way to the top of that ladder. The reason for this was so that you could learn as you climbed it. Experience in your field used to mean something. Many times if you didn’t have experience you couldn’t get a job. Nowadays you can graduate college, having no experience and get a job overseeing those who have toiled for years learning more about the job than the person who gets hired as their boss. I have actually known some people who had to train their boss. There is something inherently wrong there.

Too many companies only look at the bottom line and you just can’t have successful businesses and happy employees if you only look at that bottom line. Anyone in business knows that there is an ebb and flow to business and at times it can be feast or famine. But it is never smart to ask your workers to do more work, without compensation, while those in management just chop away at everything trying to make a little more on that bottom line. It seems it is always the lowest on the totem pole who pay the price. I can’t say I’ve ever heard of a CEO or COO or anyone else in the executive suite say, “Hey, let’s cut our salaries in half, look at all the money we will save for the company!” That, in my opinion, is what should happen when companies are looking for ways to cut back. Not cutting staff and making those still working to do two or three times the workload for no more pay. I wonder what would happen within a company if it did say that? I think morale would be through the roof and really who needs million dollar salaries when your company is having a rough spell? I’m curious why a CEO’s salary is generally not tied to the improvements and profits the company makes and when it is losing money why isn’t his the first one to be cut? Something to think about.

Until next time…